Girl Talk post (after a long time) comes with the usual warning: Incomprehensible girl blabber ahead. Skip if you want. Don’t complain that I didnt warn you !
It is being termed as the wedding of the year already! The Royal wedding of Prince William and rich commoner Kate Middleton is being touted as the biggest page 3 event of the west. I specifically said west because I bet, it’ll wane in comparison to the multi-million dollar wedding that concluded recently and was masked in obscurity – Some MLA’s son married another apparently famous guy’s daughter outside Delhi and the wedding bill was no less than 250 crores with a helicopter as wedding gift! WHOA! Forget the grandeur, naach-gaana, elaborate celebrations spanning weeks with gyrating Bollywood stars, this royal wedding has captured the imagination of hundreds of women (teenage girls in particular) since the stakes are higher than normal! A brand new Princess! The last time I was so excited was when I read Cinderella’s story out of a Disney book. Prince and Princesses are a part of every girl’s imagination. Young, youthful and extremely pretty, its hard not to notice “Princess” anywhere it is written. And princesses in long,beautiful gowns with the glass shoes…hmm its tough to resist!
Maybe I should feel sheepish for harboring the same feelings as that of a 13-14 year old girl, but I cannot help but be excited. This is the stuff of fairy-tales-turning-real. Kate Middleton was no poor maid harassed by her step-mom or sisters, she was no Aurora who was cursed by the evil witch,but on the contrary, was as normal as you and me. Rich and well-to-do no doubt, but she gets to become Princess. She charmed her way through Prince William’s heart and how! Starting out as flat-mates in a university, they became friends and eventually fell in love. Did Kate ensnare William with an eye on the crown? Did she never think of what she can become if they were to marry? I often think about this since I know so many girls who manipulate themselves and tailor their behaviour, attitude, dress sense etc to attract someone in particular. Don’t shake your heads in disagreement. How many girls take a complete U-turn to get that rich,smart guy in college? How many people lost weight, dressed provocatively, went from bad to good and vice-versa, knowing that the boy they want to attract has potential to get rich and famous? I wonder if Kate Middleton wore this just to get William to look at her? It is such a normal thing to do- yet so unfair?!
Anyway, pushing out those bitchy-girly thoughts from my head, I am genuinely happy for her. It takes more than just a svelte body to keep a handsome Prince for 8 years and even more, get back after a breakup! And its not easy being her. I doubt if I’d enjoy my every move suddenly photographed or every piece of clothing I own, ripped apart by world-famous designers. Its tough being in the spotlight too. Imagine her walking down that aisle on April 29th in her wedding dress (which is already the topic of debates) with the world’s eyes on her! From it being a private ceremony, where she gets legally married to the man she has been living with for the last 4 years to a worldwide celebration, a national holiday and a party of 1900 world-famous people, its a sea-change. And for all this tension, she has been doing remarkably well.
And of course it can be that she is enjoying it all. Loving the sudden attention, being on the best-dressed lists and suddenly elevating to a social status which few in the world enjoy. Maybe she is , maybe she isn’t. I would love her to be a people’s princess, someone who has her feet firmly planted on the ground, looking for real humanitarian causes, connecting with the modern generation of women she comes from, maybe even following her passions, continuing with her career and not succumbing to the Royal housewife tag; setting a prime example for women to look beyond marriage and riches and focus on themselves instead.
I believe she has no competition from Princess Diana. I have the highest regard for Princess Di, but she was a prime example of a woman forced into a relationship she perhaps was too young to grasp. It draws huge parallels from what typically happens in traditional India. Denied education, forced into a wealthy marriage at the age of twenty (Di was noble blood herself,Daughter of an Earl) , to a man much older (he was 35?) and who was in a relationship with another woman (Camilla Parker). She bore the heirs of the English Monarchy but found herself suffocated. The only difference being, an Indian woman in the same plight would have silently withstood all the trauma, with no recognition of her personal troubles but she being the bold and brave, decided to move out and be a single-mom. Though her heart was in the right places and she actively worked for humanitarian causes, her personal life reflected the pains of any other woman. I salute Diana for her bravery to break-free from her shackles, her undying love for the people and of course her haircut. Kate Middleton however starts off on a totally different pedestal. She should reflect how the world has changed from 1981. I really hope she does. That is the real pressure she has. Not about her coats being perfectly tailored or sporting a unique,fashion-critics-approved,event-appropriate beret every time she steps out.
But for now, I’m setting my alarm at 6 am on April 29th to watch it all live.
PS: Happy Women’s Day to everyone. Its nice to have a girl-talk post to match. 🙂