Nahi nahi, abhi nahi, abhi karo intezaar!

As cliche as that sounds I really really don’t want to (yet!) Will somebody listen? With the frequency of the M-word hitting record levels, I can only pretend to be momentarily deaf and continue conversations as though that question never came up. I usually discuss Nolan or Joss Whedon to distract that unsuspecting maami and scare her off permanently! They usually point fingers at me later to their teenage children/grandchildren and mutter “Thats why you should not do a PhD”.
Bah, I know marriage season is peaking now. My facebook is a marriage/engagement album ( no baby pictures yet, whew) and my time on the social networking site is spent usually Ctrl+Ving “Congratulations! Here is wishing you the best life has to offer!” ( If someone noticed, all my congratulatory messages are the same. #extremelaziness). Why is it that once you complete college at a mere 21 you are suddenly thrust into marriage spotlight? I mean is there some day when I’ll get up and be all ready to take on all those responsibilities? How does 25 suddenly make you mature enough to be committed for life? Married? Make you start “saving” for a future or living with someone? What has to change people? For me, nothing has! I still wake up, go to school (really!) and do homework. Okay, I do hang out on Fridays, earn my own buck and buy groceries. I hate the baggage that marriage brings along. Firstly, it is all so serious, entrenched in culture, hundreds of commitments, such a brouhaha about the whole thing. Indian culture is obsessed with shaadis. Now I cringe at the thought of attending one, not because it is not fun, but I fear the home-backlash. Wait, don’t get me wrong. I am not anti-marriage. I believe in it and everything but how do people agree to get married? Is it some pixie dust that falls on you and you are like ‘Okay! I’m all set. Chalo I am all ready to be a husband/wife’ I believe in relationships, in love and that you need someone in life to share your troubles, take you shopping to pacify your anger, clean the dishes, fold half the laundry and yes, most importantly fight. But what if you are not ready to sacrifice what you have right now? Absolute freedom to eat microwaved food, buy concert tickets for half your salary, drink juice directly out of cartons, browse reddit endlessly, wear clothes out of the dryer, play loud music and dance or just sit in a corner and read all day without anyone disturbing and other heavenly pleasures! I am not ready to give up what I have. And hey, do not counter me by arguing that marriage doesn’t change anything. I know it does. I have seen it happen. People are more orderly, hang out with more “couples”, eat dinner at home, save money, thinking a gazillion times before going anywhere,buying anything. I don’t want that now and from my perspective I don’t want that ever. But that second statement, I have hopes that I will retract for sure. (pixie-dust)
Indian society is a scumbag. Going by the insanity that happened in Guwahati most recently, I don’t think we give women any respect. Or the marriage market is all as rigged as the US elections, only this time by the panditjis, wedding-planners, gold-shops and trousseau designers. It might be a sham to make it as economically profitable and ensure no one ever comes out unscathed. Why don’t they allow women to make such life decisions? I am not saying we should embrace the West wholly and invite our parents to our weddings yet, but atleast let the person choose if he/she is ready to make compromises and succumb to the marital status?
Its the first time in 20 odd years that we are actually totally free. No schools or coaching or exams, no pressure of jobs (if you have one already), we can chart out our careers and have the financial freedom to pursue our hobbies, passions, music. We have dreamt about these years when we slogged through those entrance-exams, endless coaching classes, job-interview and its still never truly tension-free.
I know the real truth. The Indian society does not like happy people. At all.

PS: Spare the comments if you claim that you are totally happy and that parents are not on your case yet. You are the few lucky people and I do not want to know who you are. Bah.

Death of blogs

There is so much happening and everything I wanted to write about pretty much never escaped from the thick skull of mine. That explains the long delay between posts. I wont use the ‘busy’ excuse again. I figured that life is always busy. It should ideally be that way. The title of my blog might seem counter-intuitive given the zillions of blogs on the blogosphere today. Like letters were replaced with emails which got replaced further by status messages and 140 characters, blogs are dying a slow death too. It is an inefficient way to communicate your responses, not as visible as a tweet or a status message and overall might seem like an investment of time hardly worth the results. No, I don’t mean all blogs. There are passionate people who continue writing their amazing recipe blogs or adventure blogs or tech blogs (which I find most useful) or blogs of famous people who are paid by media groups who are active. I meant the blog-burst of common-people, friends who used to write about anything and everything, their issues, opinions, experiences which are on the brink of extinction. It is no surprise then that my friends’ blogs tab on google reader has not had any activity for the last several months! This raises two interesting questions – Am I (again) trying to hold on to technology that belongs to the past? or Is everyone reading so much that they don’t want to write anymore?
The internet today is far more entertaining than it has ever been. Reddit, Fark, Huffington,The Daily Beast, Quickmeme are super fun and informative websites that are giant time-eaters on their own. Tumblr memes are so much fun to browse through and they have resurrected the gif format almost entirely based on memes. The facebook like button and timeline pretty much can showcase your entire activity for the last 6 months and it is faster and easy to spread the word. Blogs on the other hand have to be nurtured, maintained,showcased which is so much more effort than just pinning,liking or hashtagging your topic of interest. I often find myself spending hours on weekends on said websites and not knowing how time flew by.
My blog, on the other hand has no theme except it is mine. It is what I write in it that makes it what it is. Its not worth much, I don’t aim to publicize extravagantly by taking hours to edit a blog post or making the language extremely sophisticated or beautiful or posting pictures where I dont need them. But I write because I like writing. I might provide the same information that numerous other websites or authors do about current topics, beautifully too. But that is a part of information. Not an opinion. There was a time back in college that blogging was extreme fun. Mainly because everyone I knew/ was friends with wrote about something they wanted to. It went beyond regular conversations, resulted in great GRE verbal scores and often described situations and issues with such originality and humour, it was a pleasure to read despite the banality of the topic. Today, it is not so. One might primarily underline the issue being the lack of time, but I tend to disagree. The only explanation can be if you are reading and assimilating so much information and you don’t know how to begin and have been putting off writing for years composing that perfect blog post in your head. Everything else is just an excuse. If you claim you have “better things to do” than write, then of course you do not belong to the brethren of writers. Because writing is a passion, either you have it or you don’t. Something like the power to appreciate reality television. Either you have it or you don’t.
Ok, that complaint apart, so much has been going on this summer. Personally, nothing major except I moved out of my last ever room-mate arrangement and am at peace with everything in this world that is non-academic. Its been relatively quiet couple of months with everything on cruise mode. Everything with my life that is. The world on the other hand, is changing by the minute. Here is my short take on everything I can remember:
Federer- All hail the God of Tennis. I did not expect him to win at all, nervously speculated if he’ll last this years’ US open and BOOM! He is No.1 and won the Wimbledon. I must thank that “unknown” who played the game of his life and threw Nadal out of the competition. Weirdly enough, Federer’s acceptance speech had a “in-you-face” tone rather than of genuine happiness. Amazing amazing tournament. I saw all of it, all the important matches and in the enthusiasm even resumed playing tennis. This is what sport and a sporting God/Hero can do to you! Roger that!
Olympics- The only time I follow swimming and gymnastics events with fervor. I have seen Ryan Lochte train in our university pool and Oh.My.God, that was the closest I have ever existed to an olympian and must say they do seem other-worldly. He seemed to be powered by some motor in the water! I am super excited since he got close to Phelps in the training.
French Open- Extreeeemely predictable. I must give immense credit to Nadal for making other players look the way they do during French Open. Ultimate respect, but no, I still love Federer. Class apart!
Movies – Sad story only that is. Nothing matched expectations. Avengers was a little too long, Brave was a let down and The Dark Knight Returns reviews are nothing like the 2008 flick. Television though got super interesting with me finding the DVDs of Sherlock Holmes finally in the library, Firefly ( why was this series shot down again) and Star Trek. I rediscovered the joy of Friends( on DVD again) and had some amazing afternoons lazing on my couch. Oh, I got a new couch, did I tell you that?
That apart, this will be my last post on this page for a while (Notice I said page, not website. Notice those small tabs on different pages near the header of this blog? The current ones are just About and Home. I’ll add another rather soon) . I intend to start another page and you’ll also know why. Big changes coming up! Keep reading people.
Cryptic but I am in no mood to reveal what is coming.
Also, RIP Rajesh Khanna. Weirdly, I never realized he was in Haathi Mere Saathi. Cried buckets for that movie. The elephant dies. Hated the hero. But we are the 90’s generation. The Raj-Simran people. But the stars of that era described what actual filmi-stars were about. Larger than life, crazy, erratic, epitome of human behaviour, uber-cool lifestyle and magnetic personas. Why do bollywood folks now try to lead “normal” lives? Isn’t the craziness a huge chunk of what they signed up for? All you heroes and heroines – give us some gossip na?!